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The Collaborative Process:
The Principles
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"Our principles are the
springs of our actions.
Our actions, the springs
of our happiness or misery.
Too much care, therefore,
cannot be taken in
forming our principles.
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Red Skelton
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These principles come from the Psychology of Vision philosophy, and are applicable to all areas of our lives. These are the principles which we attempt to manifest in this practice:
1) Whenever there is a problem or conflict, there has to be a better
way. Even in the most difficult of situations, there is always a solution
that would allow everyone to win. Love, joining, forgiveness,
communication, cooperation, and choice will lead us through.
2) The world is our mirror. Anything we do to others we do to ourselves
first. We can only accuse others of something that we believe we
ourselves are doing. We make our own reality and write our own
stories. Conflicts with others reflect conflicts within ourselves. By
resolving our inner issues, we automatically resolve the problems in
our world.
3) Anything that happens to us serves our purpose. When painful
events occur, we typically have hidden the awareness of the purpose
of the events from ourselves. Through accountability, we gain the
power to make another choice, and to change what we do not like in
our world.
4) No one can do anything to us that we are not already doing to
ourselves. No one can do anything to us that we are not also, at some
level, doing to others.
5) As we change our beliefs, we change our patterns. Our direction in
life comes from our attitude, which is the result of our continuous
choices toward the same end.
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"The purpose of
learning is growth,
and our minds, unlike
our bodies, can
continue growing as
we continue to live."
Mortimer J.Adler
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6) We are always in the perfect place to learn the lesson we most
need to learn in order to heal and grow. Our most painful experiences,
once they are healed, become the greatest gifts to ourselves and to
others.
7) We construct either heaven or hell on earth, depending on what we
give to our relationships. They are the means to create transformation.
To bond with others and heal relationships creates an accelerated
path of growth, because healing the distance between us and those
around us heals problems.
8) Leadership lets nothing be more important than answering the calls
for help around us. As we recognize that our best interests and the
best interests of others are always the same, we move ourselves
forward also. To have true success, everyone's interests must be
served. If anyone is the "bad guy," everyone loses. It is essential to
keep communicating until everyone wins.
9) Problems are opportunities to heal the pain of the past, disguised
as the pain of the present. All healing is part of our general purpose; it
leads us towards our personal purpose. It is never too late to have a
happy childhood. This recognizes that all pain is a misunderstanding.
As problems are solved, understanding is brought to past and present
circumstances, and our history and our future change for the better.
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"Finish each day
and be done with it.
You have done what
you could. Some
blunders & absurdities
no doubt crept in;
forget them as soon as
you can. Tomorrow is
a new day; begin it
well and serenely and
with too high a spirit
to be cumbered with
your old nonsense."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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10) The key to our fulfillment is to live our purpose. Embracing our
destiny is the best gift we can give the world. Our personal destiny and
purpose is to help the world in some way unique to us.
11) All manner of pain and suffering are washed away by love, when
empathic "joining" between two or more people occurs. By
transcending personal barriers we can become "one" with others, and
experience the higher states of consciousness in which pain can no
longer exist.
12) Relationships are the fundamental building blocks of life. Given
that relationships are the fundamental building blocks of life, it would
also hold that the path of relationships is an evolutionary path. From
this it would also hold that every problem is a relationship problem at
some root level.
13) We are on an evolutionary path to realize that we are Spirit, on the
way to Oneness. Receiving grace and miracles is the easiest way to
move toward that aim.
14) Whatever our circumstances, however we see things, the answer
always lies in healing. It is what we have come for.
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